Setptember 10, 2012
Max and Alex got to play on the Sounds field cause papa joined a business group that does wild events -- like renting out the stadium.
He also started playing on his new team the Cardinals. As much as he loves playing I'm questioning what to do.
In fact, the experience with over-zealous coaches has made me think a lot about my dad. One thing my dad did for us (and I think the other kids on the teams my dad coached) was make baseball fun. It wasn't about winning and losing -- which these coaches believe. It was about having fun. "We'll go for ice cream after the game," my dad would say. "What if we lose, coach?" some kid would ask. "We're going for ice cream after the game no matter what," my dad would say.
I compare that to hearing one coach say the kids should feel bad about losing and the discussion later about how I'm doing my kid a disservice by hiding winning and losing from him.
"He's six," I said. "At this age if he has fun and maybe learns something, I'm happy. If it's about winning and losing and having to do it right, then half these kids aren't going to be back next year."
The other interesting thing to me is that Max hasn't played as well as I know he can. I think he feels the pressure of a coach telling him what to do after every pitch. "Do it your way Max," mama told him when he went up to bat after striking out the previous time. He hit the ball.
I thought about pulling him off the team. Instead, for now, I go to every game and practice and commit myself to coaching in the spring.
"Hey, teacher, leave my kid alone!"